'Friends With An Ex' or 'How To Love'

Taken by Levack Photography September 2011

Still great friends! Taken September 2018

My ex-boyfriend Andrew and I made a video together about how to love unconditionally and how we learned how to do that after breaking up. I broke it up into parts (mostly based on topic) for the sake of time and because the recording got split somehow anyway.  Even without fancy editing software that I don't have, I hope you appreciate the content. I believe it helps answer a lot of common questions I get. Feel free to comment and share! 

There are five total videos. I will update this blog as I post each video.

​Andrew and I broke up over three years ago but we remained committed to our own personal growth which kept our established friendship alive and taught us new ways to look at and experience love. This first portion is about what we have learned from failed relationships and how unconditional love can be developed.

In this clip, we discuss how confusing different types of love can create expectations that our partner may not be able to live up to.

​Andrew and I discuss when it's necessary to cut ties and how creating a foundation in a relationship is vital to its continued success.

This clip discusses learning boundaries as well as the difference between enabling and helping a loved one. We also discuss how curiosity with acceptance and compassion instead of expecting something helps build a healthier bond in any relationship.

In our final clip Andrew and I discuss how we learned to handle when someone else is accusing, blaming or projecting as well as what to do when we feel triggered by someone else.