I have learned this lesson because I have been overly accommodating my entire life. In Enneagram I am a 9 - The Peacemaker and the shadow side of that is wanting to 'keep the peace' so badly you bend to other's will, you agree to things you don't really want and you do this so often you begin to lose yourself. Your mental, spiritual, emotional and physical health begins to rebel. We all have this aspect in us, it just happens to be my dominant. Notice how often you agree to things and take a step back and ask yourself if this is what you really want. If you don't know take a break from the situation until you do.
When you take a life pause long enough to know your own mind be prepared for backlash. Chin up, you keep standing up straight and it will all work out for the better for all parties. Those who love and care for you most may be confused but will witness the results and support you either way. The rest will show who they really are without your constant acquiescence.
Micah's confessions and lessons that have helped with self-forgiveness, healing and acceptance.